What are Blended Family Wedding Vows?
With the influx in re-marriages many weddings are either one or both of the engaged couples’ second marriage, thereby combining families. Blended family wedding vows are a great way to offer a more creative and cohesive approach to integrating the two families.
Traditionally, it is common for the couple to recite their vows to each other. Yet under these circumstances including the children from previous relationships is more important. So why not add to the wedding plans and program the exchange of wedding vows from the bride and groom to their newly blended family too?
Including the children in not just the ceremony but in the wedding vows is a great way to start off the existence within a complex family combination. And we know how difficult this can be!
While it offers tremendous benefits there are few factors when developing your blended family wedding vows that you should consider first. Let’s review a few of these factors to get you started!
Benefits of Including Family Members in Your Wedding Vows
The idea of incorporating your newly combined family into the wedding vows is creative, unique, considerate and a beautiful loving meaningful gesture. And what better way for the bride to make a vow to the groom and his children and vice versa! Talk about a moment to remember! Not to mention, you’re allowing the children to be a part of a very special and life changing event!
Another benefit of blending family vows together with your wedding vows is the warmth and love of this meaningful gesture towards the kids. This makes both set of children more at ease with their position in the family unit as opposed to it just being them and their single parent like before.
The adulation of the guests and children will be immeasurable hands down! Here are a few tips and tricks to adding this beautiful moment to the wedding program.
How to Blend Family Wedding Vows
1. Don’t address the vows as questions that require the children to respond. You’re more likely to create an embarrassing moment than a treasured one this way! This is especially true, if the kids are having trouble adjusting to the marriage. There’s no telling what they may say, so don’t give them the opportunity to prove a point or divert the attention from the wedding.
2. Keep the wedding vows basic and genuine. Plainly put! Don’t over-do it, stay sincere and eliminate all the melodrama. For example: ” To (list the children’s name), I vow to be the best parent possible and treat you all with the same kindness, love and protection I give my own, no less and no more”!
3. Try to include the older children into the wedding processional! For example; have the soon to be son-in-law give the bride away and have the soon to be daughter-in-law escort the groom.
4. Giving gifts to the children is an ideal way to show your devotion to the newly extended family. Try offering the children a family unity ring made from silver with their name and the wedding date engraved. For example; the bride presents the rings to the grooms children while reciting her blended family vows and vice versa.
5. Offering the children the opportunity to light the unity candle during the wedding vows is an especially touching token! Having special candles engraved with their names and the wedding date can be a great way to get the children involved in the ceremony.
Remember, this is still your wedding. If the exchange is sincere you will be giving the entire wedding party something they can appreciate and enjoy, for, if you really think about it, you are truly bringing together a new family!
Have a wonder-filled wedding day!
Rev. Rudy Heezen