Wedding Officiants Toronto
‘Married now What?’
It’s been a few days since your special day. You’ve returned the tuxedo, packed away the wedding dress and been on your honeymoon
You’ve begun to settle into a normal routine of housekeeping, going to work, grocery shopping and all the other things that go into building a life together.
These changes in your lives (from being single and/or engaged to now being married, living under the same roof), can create marital discord. About 47 percent of newly married couples report serious marital problems in the first 18 months of their marriages. With many others expressing real concerns whether their marriages will survive.
It should not be especially surprising as most couples enter into marriage idealizing their respective spouse and relationship.
The need to love and be loved, being in a long-term and intimate relationship is so basic to whom we are that we tend to overlook the shortcomings of our partner, ourselves and our relationship.
In the excitement of preparing for our marriages, we might intentionally or not, avoid confronting these issues that could well threaten our long term future relationship.
And at times we will not even agree on how to disagree. Conflict management is one of the first and most difficult skills that newly married couples must master.
It is no wonder that many new marriages end in divorce just after a few years, or even months. Many couples are so disillusioned by the realities of their relationships and rather than working on these challenges, they simply give up.
Marriage is hard work! In my opinion (and I may be old fashioned) there should not be an EXIT sign in marriage. (Of course it goes without saying notwithstanding abuse or adultery).
The good news is, if you persevere, you will find much fulfillment in our marriages.
Through hard work, compromise, listening, communicating, mutual respect, forgiveness, and love, you can build a solid foundation for your future together.
At times newly married couples seek professional advice as they are committed to their union and long term happiness.
This is a great option allowing for working through some of these new challenges.
Have a successful Marriage!
Rev. Rudy Heezen
Wedding Officiant and Wedding Counselor