Tips for Popping the Question
Getting to that question ‘Will you marry me?’ is always going to be daunting. It’s not just about what you’re asking but also how you set the scene, make it a romantic scene, and show your partner that the best way to enjoy life is together. Take a look at the following suggestions to see if any of these registers with the romantic in you, make your proposal such that will be impossible to turn down.
Look Back on Previous Conversations Regarding Marriage
If you have been together for a while, then you’ll have had plenty of time to discuss all kinds of topics, including marriage. Try to understand your partner’s position regarding marriage and proposals. Be sure to do it subtly otherwise you might find yourself making an ad hoc proposal then and there.
Public or Private Proposal
To mark the special occasion, you might want to enjoy a lavish night of wining and dining at a fancy restaurant. You could have some soulful music playing in the background before you bring out the ring and the question. If your partner has a love of large romantic gestures, this could be the way to go.
However, for some people, a public place creates pressure for them to say ‘yes’. And chances are your partner won’t appreciate being pressured before an audience. Think about the time you’ve spent together. How many of those were public memories and how many were more private, intimate moments. This brings us to our next point
Make It Individualistic
Don’t just make it a general proposal; down on one knee, a ring between your fingers. You need to put originality and thought into your proposal, including the location (maybe a place that has some personal meaning to you both, like your first meeting and/or date), how you phrase it (a term of endearment prepared) and how you lead up to it (a casual night together, reliving a meaningful trip down memory lane).
Be Careful Who You Tell
You may need to include certain people in the secret, possibly someone in your partner’s social circle to get a sense of what will resonate with them the most. If you’ve got friends or family who are happily married, perhaps find out how they went about it. But keep it on a need-to-know basis. You don’t want everyone knowing your intent prior to you popping the question (worse yet your partner could find out)!!
Getting the Ring Out
There are a few creative ways of revealing the ring. You could have it at the bottom of a champagne glass (as long as they don’t swallow it), you could have them discover it at the end of a memento trail, or reveal it at the end of a heartfelt speech. The ring will seal the deal so how they first see it is crucial.
Have Some Words Prepared
This is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. One thing to bear in mind is to try not to make any references to the future (i.e. children, growing old together) because this could overwhelm your partner. Focus on the things you love about them as an individual, how they make you feel and why you work so well together. But don’t turn it into a 15-minute monologue; you’re not reciting a play.
If you can remember these tips, you can guarantee a romantic period for yourselves!!!
Have a wonderful wedding
Rudy